On Sunday 13th September at 8am I was gifted my star name by Kirra,   the Golden Oracle of light .  
My star name is De Ellis which means endurance.  
When she told me it brought tears for I certainly felt I had endured.  The tears were for the vulnerable, wounded part of me ...but they were also for the wellspring of love and compassion that has evolved through my life experiences.  
On seeing the video below I was compelled to write on what i saw in the power of endurance!

E - the capacity to empathise and tap into the emotional landscape of others
N - the ability to nurture even in the face of indescribable odds 
D- the courage to dare to keep going in the face of no agreement
U- the vision to understand and be at one with life events 
R - the capacity to build resilience  and hold yourself in a centred way
A- the ability to take action and not be crippled by life events 
N- the gift of human nature to use love as a tool to withstand 
C- the gift of compassion that holds such energy it transforms lives 
E - the gift of full emotional expression and its unique capacity to guide us

Others are deeply inspired by our stories of endurance.  
I did not learn about joy by studying joy.  
I learn about joy by experiencing  grief, shame and embarrassment.
 It was only as I rode the roller coaster  of full emotional expression that I noticed challenge and support were side by side, and I could see the beauty of my life.
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In all that i do I inspire hope, liberate compassion and evoke joy.  
I do this by creating a safe place for people to heal as they move through grief and loss.  
​I enable them to heal their past and then step into full self expression.  

I have been enamoured ( nice word enamoured ) for some time by Simon Seliks work.   
 His “Why” process and the accompanying story is wonderful fodder for gathering in and finding expression for your own place in the world.  My life has been devoted to healing and teaching in one form or another.   First as a Registered Nurse, then coaching and supporting others through grief and loss.  Using the joyology model, I have become a stand for authentic full self expression not just for myself but for others as well. That has extended out now to be a coach using NLP and mBIT  philosophies and  methodology to support others to soar! 
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Love letters to Humanity ©

My first contract in New Zealand was with a private training company.  The attendance rates were 35% and so were outcomes.  Not good !!  The disciplinary process was to send 3 warning letters and then students were “dismissed” .  As the leader I refused to comply with this practice.  


You see, I knew this would not bring about change.  The students were second chance learners from a poor area who got beaten up before they came to class!  There was nothing motivating in these communications from the company.

 So, instead I sat with every student.  I sat with them until I knew them well enough to write them a one page letter.  In that letter I  honoured the good that I saw, the qualities I admired and the progress they had made.  Sometimes their results were not great….but I discovered if you sit with people long enough you find out all you need to know.  I was with that company two years and wrote 2000 pieces of personalised mail.  When I left the attendance rate was 95% and so were outcomes.  I wrote to and honoured those who came and the word spread. 

When I left I committed I would from that point on write 3 pieces of what I call Glad Mail every day.  As I write it is 2015 and I have sent well over  10,000 pieces of mail.  Every presentation I give at conferences , I hand out 3 pieces of Glad Mail … random … written the night before based on what I intuit will be required by the person receiving.

Why would I do this?  From 1997 to 2001 I lost my home and business twice.  I moved countries and arrived in NZ owing $80,000, which I repaid in 2 years.  I had lost my first child , a daughter.  I was also a cancer survivor.   When I arrived in New Zealand I had ten car accidents, about 6 weeks apart!  None my fault honest!  My family had not spoken since 1989, and then my partner of 20 years left with another woman.  I was devastated…his last words to me were “ No I don’t love you and I never loved you!”


It was at that point I disintegrated.  I thought if that is true then everything I know is not true. 
I committed at that point that whatever came up in my life, I would go to it. 


And then … something began to happen.  A chance conversation with a magician from South Australia and I had a huge revelation.  I thought..” Oh my…we have radiology, pathology, and haematology …but no joyology!  I am going to be a Joyologist. “

And so I am the Worlds First Joyologist.

I remained present and connected to my path and experienced so much paradox and synchronicity as the concept and my role evolved.  I now have over 5000 testimonials that include this from Dr Ric Coleman, “Pat Armitstead is NZ’s answer to Patch Adams.”

I have also been likened to “ a spiritual midwife delivering people out of the darkness”. 

Where am I leading with this?

As I have evolved since 2001 I have committed over and over to refine and polish my language and to speak lovingly and authentically as my way of being.  Now I see what that has attracted to me with so many wonderful words coming back from people who have enjoyed my presentations or my coaching.  I was honoured to speak at New Zealands “Be the change you want to see” conference in 2000, and its been a privilege to be a contribution to so many.  I have lived my life in intention and my Glad Mail is one of my ways of expressing that.


My challenge to you the reader
·         Find at least one person each day who needs to hear from you; who needs your recognition and words of appreciation .

·         Keep a record for 3 months of that communication you send out and start noticing what  is coming back! 


·         We would love to hear from you and what you have learned through this action 


Namaste....Pat